Father’s Day: “It’s You I Like”

I spent a fair amount of time this morning, scrolling through my iPhone photos, trying to find a good one to post of Tim in honor of Father’s Day.  I have some of us as a family – at parties and on trips, and some of he and I on dates, or at concerts. But those were just said – Hey, here we are! They were fine, but they didn’t really tell a story about what I like most about Tim as a father. Then I came across some pictures of us at some of this year’s protest marches, including the 2ndAnnual Women’s March and the March for our Lives after the Parkland shootings. Those were better, because it’s one of the things I most appreciate about Tim as a father – the example he has set for our kids that part of being an adult is a willingness to stay open, learn and advocate for others.

But this morning, Tim had a funny request. He wanted to go see the new Mr. Rodgers’ documentary called, “Won’t You Be My Neighbor?” I didn’t see that request coming, but why not? All our kids were working, so we had a couple hours to kill. I highly recommend the film, but there was one moment in particular that brought me to tears.  I won’t give it away, but Mr. Rodgers sings one of his classic songs, “It’s You I Like” with a guest on the show. If you don’t remember, it goes like this and you can listen to him and sing along here.

It’s you I like,
It’s not the things you wear,
It’s not the way you do your hair
But it’s you I like.
The way you are right now,
The way down deep inside you
Not the things that hide you,
Not your toys
They’re just beside you.

But it’s you I like
Every part of you.
Your skin, your eyes, your feelings
Whether old or new.
I hope that you’ll remember
Even when you’re feeling blue
That it’s you I like,
It’s you yourself
It’s you.
It’s you I like.

 

That’s it, I thought.

That’s why Tim is such a good father. He makes it clear to each of our very different children that he likes them as they are. They don’t have to be perfect; they don’t have to change; they don’t have to be shaped or molded or directed by him. It’s not that he doesn’t parent them, or help them make good decisions, but first and foremost, I think they hear the message, “It’s you I like.” I think that makes him a pretty good father.

Not everyone is lucky enough to have a dad like that, but I hope you do, or did and that it has helped you become the kind of person, who can share affirmation like that with the people you love. I know I did, which is probably part of the reason I married Tim. From the moment we met, I never doubted that, “It’s you I like, the way down deep inside you, not the things that hide you.”

Happy Father’s Day to the man who raised me and the man I’m raising a family with. Don’t ever doubt that “it’s you I like.”

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Team Kirks before and after Tim tells a joke 

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  1. Ali what a wonderful tribute to Tim! I love your writings!! Love you

    On Sun, Jun 17, 2018 at 3:37 PM, ALISON KIRKPATRICK wrote:

    > alison kirkpatrick posted: “I spent a fair amount of time this morning, > scrolling through my iPhone photos, trying to find a good one to post of > Tim in honor of Father’s Day. I have some of us as a family – at parties > and on trips, and some of he and I on dates, or at concerts. But” >

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  2. Justin and I watched Mr. Rogers together. Mr. Rogers was a role model for children and adults alike. I know Tim lives by the same Christian values. Love your neighbor and treat others with kindness and compassion. I can’t wait to see the movie.

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  3. Hi Ali, greetings from Barcelona!

    We have been in Spain about five weeks now and have had a wonderful time with our daughter and family while we were in Barcelona Also, we spent a couple of weeks in the Basque country with the students from USD. David has been teaching this course about the Mondragon cooperatives for about 20 years and this is the best group of students we’ve had so far.

    I have been catching up on emails now and just wanted to tell you that I/we loved your Father’s Day reflections. So many times you are able to put into words what I feel and I just wanted to tell you I appreciate your sharing your God-given gifts with all of us. We also had tears when we saw the beautiful session with the young boy and Mr. Rogers. What a wonderful man he was and we are so blessed to have Tim and David in our lives as well. 🙏😃

    Will be back on June 26 and hope to see you guys soon after!

    Love and hugs for you and yours from David and I,💕 Cherie

    Sent from my iPhone

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    • Thanks for your note Cherie! So good to hear from you. Sounds like we are on very opposite schedules. We will be gone for most of July, but I am speaking on July 22 at the feast of Mary Magdalene. Love to see you then!

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